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Girls kissing girls: is it cheating or not?

If a girl is in a monogamous relationship, does kissing another girl count as cheating?

How does the public view a bit of girl on girl action? I carried out a survey between 100 people and here's what I found.

Around 50% of people who took part in the survey consider this to be an act of cheating with 3% saying it was cheating as their partner's sexuality expressed an attraction to women.

Only 15% of participants voted no, and another 15% said they didn't consider it cheating because their partner wasn't attracted to girls, and an additional 7% stated that they didn't consider it as cheating because they enjoyed watching.

For comparison, 91% said that they would consider it cheating if their girlfriend kissed a man, with 1% saying no, and 6% saying that if their partner was attracted to men it would be cheating.

As you can see from the results, most do still consider kissing to be cheating regardless of gender, however, is the variation in the answers relevant?

I'm not here to shame people on what they decide to do within their relationships. I want to explore the differences in how we view male and female sexuality. It's interesting that out of the survey participants that enjoy watching lesbian porn, 54% said that they didn't consider girls kissing girls as cheating, this included men that identified as bisexual.

Fluid sexuality and what is cheating?

One man explained his answer by saying: "I put it's not cheating if I enjoy watching. The only reason "cheating" is bad is because it will upset the other person in the relationship, but if I enjoyed it then it's not a problem." He also added that "most of the time you can tell if people are just having a laugh, or if there is more to it."

I'm all for fluid sexuality. Arbitrary labels for sexualities are pointless, people love on a basis of self rather than genitalia. Maybe kissing someone of the opposite gender is an exploration of sexuality, not cheating.

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Does the relationship between the person they're kissing matter?

One person said that their relationship to the person they were kissing mattered: "My [their] girlfriend used to occasionally when drunk kiss (peck) our gay male friend on the lips, but she stopped because she picked up the fact that I wasn’t too keen on it. I never saw him as a threat or that it was cheating. The thought of her kissing a guy was strange to me, I'm not sure why it bothered me, but it did."

"I wouldn’t consider my girlfriend kissing one of her female mates as cheating. but a random girl I would." The sexual orientation of the man is irrelevant, it still has an impact as opposed to a woman. The relationship between the person is also considered if they're a friend is it ok, but the man she kissed was a friend and he was gay, so is that ok? I'm trying to understand the difference between the two.

I don't know what I feel at the end of this. I agree that more often than not you can tell when someone is unfaithful as opposed to just being drunk or flirty. Although I do think it's worth noting the different answers from people.

Guys are a lot more lenient when it comes to letting their girlfriends kiss other girls.

In some instances, I think that pornography has had a huge influence. It creates a picture that female sexuality can just be for men.

Plenty of people gave legitimate reasons as to why they would let their girlfriend kiss another girl. What are your thoughts?