Do birthdays get worse as we get older?
I don’t know whether it’s just me, but I get the sneaking feeling that people aren’t exactly keen to celebrate their birthdays nowadays.
You’ve probably seen the memes. And if not, here’s one for free:
Now, I’m not sure if it’s because we fear the unknown, we fear the future and what perils it may bring, or if it’s because we just don’t really like birthdays. For instance, I didn’t particularly want to celebrate my birthday last year because I was feeling a bit ‘down in the dumps’. You know the feeling. “Oh god, I’m getting older and everything is moving so quickly and I don’t know what I can do to stop it.” And this year isn’t much different.
You aren’t alone in that feeling.—believe me, I’ve asked enough people s what they think of their birthday and they have had PLENTY to say. While a few were quite positive about age, there were some people who don’t like birthdays for various reasons. Lots of people didn’t like the idea of ageing, Jess said, “I equally look forward to and dread my birthday because I love cake but also because I have a horrendous fear of aging”. Another friend stated “I LOVE my birthday! I just love the attention”, whilst other people weren’t too keen on birthday’s, “it’s just a number to me, after getting over the milestones of 16 and 18 it’s just another number” with another saying “I always think they are a little disappointing on the day, a bit like Christmas day”.
So, there seems to be a common consensus of ‘it’s just another year’ which I can get on board with. But what struck me was the people who responded positively because birthdays, meant that they can spend more time with friends and family. But there’s one theme that stuck out to me most”I used to really look forward to them when I was younger, but since I turned 17 I’ve not really bothered to do anything big, I enjoy the day no matter what… But Christmas is my thing.”
But in all honesty, my aim of this article was to see how people felt about their birthdays so I could feel a bit more normal. And I’m hoping that if you felt the same way beforehand, that this article proves that people feel the same as you, whether you despise your day of birth or whether you see it as an opportunity to spend time with loved ones, you are not alone.