Not feeling that night out? Here’s how to combat FOMO at uni
Unleash a social bunny at university and you’ll get effects similar to letting a child on an adventure playground: complete excitement.
Sports’ nights, society socials, bar crawls and club events are at your reach, every night of the week. And you’re not short of finding people that are also up for a night out. However, if you’re a little more introverted, or if you’re just really not feeling that 5th night out of the week, then navigating the social side of uni can sometimes feel as if you’re tentatively crossing a minefield. Everyone from your mum to your flatmates will be checking up on you to make sure you’re having a ‘good time’, begging you to get out and be sociable. And then there’s the problem of feeling major FOMO as soon as everyone embarks for a night on the town without you.
What if they’re having THE BEST TIME and I’m not there to enjoy it? Would I have successfully pulled had I gone? What if the 2-hour queue to meet Kem off Love Island just for that insta-pic was actually worth the hype?
Here are a few things you can do to combat the endless ‘what ifs’ FOMO can throw at you.
At least turn up to pre-drinks
You can socialise with your pals before the loud, bassy music of the club kicks in and you can’t successfully have a conversation without repeating yourself three times, screaming at the top of your lungs. Are your flatmates hosting pres at yours? Hello wine drinking whilst in joggers and slippers.
Stay off social media
The number one mistake any FOMO-fearer can make is to check social media once your pals have headed to the club. No one wants to see Charlie and co. getting jiggy to 00’s bangers in Pryzm when you’re not there to join in the fun. However, abstaining from social media completely can bring its own FOMO: the FOMO of not having known what the heck went on. How can you join in the conversation tomorrow about last night’s antics if you weren’t there, and then didn’t keep up with everyone’s night on social media? Just console yourself with the club’s Facebook page. The photographer, who is now your saviour, has taken many snaps of your pals and like a sleuth, you can piece together their night by flicking through the album. Sorted.
Remember that FOMO has been caused by fibs
You need to remind yourself that social media is the technological equivalent of someone telling a white lie. If Sarah’s having a rubbish night, she’s not exactly going to be snapping away about how drunk and emotional she’s ended up, is she? Instead, you’re going to see her smiling away in a club; a candid of her with her pals, who have actually spent the night really pissing her off. You just might be having a better time in your pj’s and slippers.
Provide everyone else with their own FOMO
The only exception to your self-diagnosed social media drought: you’re allowed to break it for one reason. That reason is to provide everyone else with their daily dose of FOMO. Your pals have given you the sinking feeling of FOMO, so why not dish it out right back at them?! Tweet about your incredible night in; post a Tumblr-worthy pic on Insta of your Netflix screen and choice of snacks. Everyone will be jealous. After all, everyone wants what they can’t have.
Distract yourself with a task that will while away the hours
It’s like Netflix ‘n’ chill, properly chilled. You don’t have to spend a solid hour finding a film that everyone will agree with; it’s all on you. You can binge watch any series or cheesy rom-com to your heart’s content, until the wee hours of the morning, when everyone’s back and in bed. Did you wallow in how much you thought you were missing out? Not once. You were too busy thinking about how attractive Robbie from Angus Thongs was back in his prime, and wondering why the heck he’s gone downhill ever since.
Comfort eating is the way forward
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Go on, treat yourself to a Dominoes. If it’s Two for Tuesday, go all out and get two- and there’s no one else about to mock you or take the other pizza, therefore this situation is a win-win. This whole takeaway malarkey is just like the best part of a drunken night out, but with slightly more guilt about how you’re spending money you don’t really have. Damn you, sensible, sober brain.
Or use the time to catch up on your z’s
It’s university. You don’t get sleep at the best of times. Take the opportunity whilst you can.
Remind yourself of everything that SUCKS about a night out
You’ve managed to skip the irritation of having Uber cancel on you twice as the fares rise. You’ve dodged the annoying tiredness hit that strikes around 1 am, where you just want to head home but no one else is ready yet. And you don’t have to deal with that one flatmate who becomes extremely annoying and slightly aggressive whilst drunk. Your evening is actually brilliant in comparison to what it could have been.
Get some work done?
You could do, but everyone else is out and clearly not working. They’re having fun, so you should be entitled to a bit of fun, too. Night off? How about yes.
There’s always tomorrow night
Another day, another club night. Let’s say bye to FOMO.